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Finding Peace with My Collection and HabitsFinding Peace with My Collection and HabitsDiary

TragicalTragical10 месяцев назад
With this year coming to a close and after some time away from collecting, I find myself wanting to reflect on my progress.

These past few months have not been easy for me mentally. I have struggled finding "purpose" and wanting to feel more fulfilled with my life, yet feeling incapable of reaching the goals I yearn for. So I settled into these micro-obsessions to fill time: binging shows, playing online games, or falling into the endless scroll of social media just looking at things. Most of my endeavors with selling screeched to a halt as my motivation dwindled, and I actually spent less and less time among my collection.

But, as if waking from a long sleep, I wanted to dig into collecting again after months of wanting nothing to do with it. And even though I feared I would slip into unhealthy behaviors, this is not the case. I can appreciate and enjoy items without feeling the urge to buy them. The compulsion to accumulate isn't really there anymore, and my "rules" for adding to my collection are second nature now instead of something I must actively consider. There is a genuine passion for my current collection as it is and, whether it shrinks or grows, I feel genuine fondness for at least 90% of what's on the shelves.

Overall, I'm so, so proud of myself. I no longer feel overwhelmed by what I own and, although I still want to let go of more items, I have made tremendous progress. I checked my eBay account and I sold just over 100 items since last November! That's so much more than I thought I could let go of at the beginning of this, and there's not one thing I miss from it.

I'm not sure what the future holds for me in the collecting sphere, but it feels really positive! I'm hoping to maybe make some fun/interesting articles and pursue more creative outlets for my collection, like crafting props for my dolls/figures.

Thank you for reading! And let me preemptively say I read and appreciate any comments even if I don't respond directly. Please have a good week and be sure to take care of yourself!
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leith10 месяцев назад#70483759Hi, I happened to read your comment and those are really good suggestions.
You should write an article about that subject, I'll definitely read it :)

Thank you! Considering the response to my little blog entry, I do feel motivated to try and dig more into how I got here and the things which helped me. Now it's just a matter of organizing it all into something that doesn't become a word salad, lol.
10 месяцев назад
dollbyn10 месяцев назад#70460149I'm sorry you feel this way! Sometimes you can't help but feel stuck in a certain pattern that's hard to get away from. :(
Stepping away from collecting was much less of a conscious effort and something that just kind of happened for me. And to be honest, I don't think it's necessarily something you should have to force on yourself since it likely won't address the underlying reason you've fallen into these habits. For me, I don't really get afraid of missing out on things as my tastes are generally not catered to (older or niche anime/media), so it wasn't an influence I was particularly concerned with. As for selling 100 items, remember how I mentioned micro-obsessions? Well, selling became that on more than one occasion this past year. I would come home from work and happily prepare to put things up for sale with pictures, description, etc. and watched some shows while I packed up items I sold until it was time for dinner. I really began to enjoy the process and it didn't hurt that I was making money at the same time. So much of my selling was in "bursts" between limited or no selling periods.
I think the biggest way you can help yourself is identifying why you have fallen into these patterns, and this can be difficult for some because you have to be very honest with yourself. Some self-reflection can go a long way in repairing a poor mindset within the hobby. One of the ways I helped myself was reading the experiences of those who sought minimalist lifestyles and how they pursued such goals. As collectors, being truly minimalist is definitely a pipe dream for most, but the advice was still very relevant. I would also recommend looking into the KonMari method, which emphasizes only keeping items which "spark joy" and letting go of the rest (but not before thanking the items for their time with you!). You can see this method in action on Netflix in "Tidying Up With Marie Kondo", where she helps people with very similar problems. Another tip: be horribly nitpicky with anything you want to buy. Look for anything you don't like: colors, pose, sculpt, etc. and, if any of those details aren't up to snuff, you pass on it. It requires you to have a strong will, but rules like these can guarantee you 100% adore what you're buying and stops the cycle of buying something only to sell it later.
It's important to mention that seeking a change like this isn't just about the hobby, but pursuing a better lifestyle which benefits you both mentally and physically. And like many things, they can take time and sometimes we can falter in our progress. But as long as you hold yourself to it, even if it's just bit by bit, you'll come out the other side feeling better about yourself and what you enjoy. I know this sounds really cheesy, but it's how I feel on it!
I'm sure I could jabber on and on, but hopefully these are some good starting points for you! And maybe I can collect my thoughts better and take the time to write a full article on this subject, too. :) If you want to talk more on this, don't be afraid to PM me! It can be hard to do it alone and having someone to hear you out can be very helpful.
Wishing you the best of luck!


Hi, I happened to read your comment and those are really good suggestions.
You should write an article about that subject, I'll definitely read it :)
10 месяцев назад
Marshmallowpie10 месяцев назад#70459938The idea that you can appreciate a figure without needing to own it is so important and I think a lot of people could benefit from realising this. Looking at pictures is free, and with the creative abilities some people have, sometimes the photos are even better than the real thing.
So, so important! There is merit in enjoying things from afar, sort of like window shopping. It's part of the reason conventions or going to a store which sells figures can be a nice release since you can "experience" the item without having to buy it. :) And not going to lie, I'm envious of some of the photographers who can make figures look so nice!
10 месяцев назад
skylinedo10 месяцев назад#70459857This is a phase. Once you've had enough experience, you'll calm down. But you need to avoid financial ruin first! Income and priorities will determine how fast you proceed in this hobby.
At first, it's a massive overwhelming CRAZE. Especially if you're in "competition" with your friends.
Then will come a point where your tastes will have significantly narrowed and your preorders dwindled. Keep your "head above the water" until then!

It's been quite a phase for most of my life! I have dabbled in collecting many, many things, but this is the first instance where I've reined in my compulsions and gained a healthier mindset within the collecting niche. I will admit there is definitely an initial excitement when first joining the hobby which many of us fall victim to, lol. I think for some, this is definitely the pattern they fit into, but others are not so cut and dry.
10 месяцев назад
samkaizoku10 месяцев назад#70440525...
How do you step away from collecting? What about FOMO (fear of missing out) on your favorite characters & scales in that time-span? Also, how did you manage to sell 100 items on eBay? Any tips & recommendations? I am trying myself but to very middling success.
I desperately know that I need to scale down; it is an issue that I have acknowledged about 3 years ago but haven`t made any considerable headways on that front. If anything, I buy more and sell/get-rid-of about the same.
Reading your article here is a re-affirmation of what I need to do; that I need to scale down my collection to a very select few of figures (50 or 60 from a current 110, preferably less), step away, and enjoy what I have.
Would really appreciate any tips, recommendations, articles from you or anyone else regarding that.
Thanks.

I'm sorry you feel this way! Sometimes you can't help but feel stuck in a certain pattern that's hard to get away from. :(

Stepping away from collecting was much less of a conscious effort and something that just kind of happened for me. And to be honest, I don't think it's necessarily something you should have to force on yourself since it likely won't address the underlying reason you've fallen into these habits. For me, I don't really get afraid of missing out on things as my tastes are generally not catered to (older or niche anime/media), so it wasn't an influence I was particularly concerned with. As for selling 100 items, remember how I mentioned micro-obsessions? Well, selling became that on more than one occasion this past year. I would come home from work and happily prepare to put things up for sale with pictures, description, etc. and watched some shows while I packed up items I sold until it was time for dinner. I really began to enjoy the process and it didn't hurt that I was making money at the same time. So much of my selling was in "bursts" between limited or no selling periods.

I think the biggest way you can help yourself is identifying why you have fallen into these patterns, and this can be difficult for some because you have to be very honest with yourself. Some self-reflection can go a long way in repairing a poor mindset within the hobby. One of the ways I helped myself was reading the experiences of those who sought minimalist lifestyles and how they pursued such goals. As collectors, being truly minimalist is definitely a pipe dream for most, but the advice was still very relevant. I would also recommend looking into the KonMari method, which emphasizes only keeping items which "spark joy" and letting go of the rest (but not before thanking the items for their time with you!). You can see this method in action on Netflix in "Tidying Up With Marie Kondo", where she helps people with very similar problems. Another tip: be horribly nitpicky with anything you want to buy. Look for anything you don't like: colors, pose, sculpt, etc. and, if any of those details aren't up to snuff, you pass on it. It requires you to have a strong will, but rules like these can guarantee you 100% adore what you're buying and stops the cycle of buying something only to sell it later.

It's important to mention that seeking a change like this isn't just about the hobby, but pursuing a better lifestyle which benefits you both mentally and physically. And like many things, they can take time and sometimes we can falter in our progress. But as long as you hold yourself to it, even if it's just bit by bit, you'll come out the other side feeling better about yourself and what you enjoy. I know this sounds really cheesy, but it's how I feel on it!

I'm sure I could jabber on and on, but hopefully these are some good starting points for you! And maybe I can collect my thoughts better and take the time to write a full article on this subject, too. :) If you want to talk more on this, don't be afraid to PM me! It can be hard to do it alone and having someone to hear you out can be very helpful.

Wishing you the best of luck!
10 месяцев назад
gwendal738-210 месяцев назад#70440171We are on the same boat! I actually just got back from a 7 month hiatus from collecting, and yes, it is definitely liberating to take a step back and assess what I already own and enjoy them to the fullest. It's also equally liberating to not have to pay for preorders (and drive 2 hours to the post office - 1 hour to and from). Plus, spending some time away from the hobby really made me appreciate everything so much more, and only order what I really want; I guess I was burned out before (I had POs every month, and no money left for other entertainment needs), but now I'm finding happiness in the hobby again.
And yes, getting creative with this hobby certainly helps justify bring more fun and interaction into it! I think part of feeling burned out with collecting is that sometimes it can feel like mindless consumption; buying and buying but then just sticking them in a detolf/shelf/cabinet and they do practically nothing. It can feel like a waste of money/space that way. But making furniture/dioramas, figure photography, customization, and all those other things can certainly make things much more fun! I've recently gotten into making dioramas/furniture and I'm trying to get back into photography, and I've been changing poses and moving things around so that my displays feel much more interactive rather than static and posed. It helps with finding happiness in the hobby again.
All I want to say is, good luck with your collecting journey, and I hope you find more happiness in it in the future! :D

I'm so glad you had a similar experience and enjoy the hobby again! What you mentioned about the "mindless consumption" is so true and definitely contributes to the burnout feeling. Hopefully I can find something fun and creative that I can do for my figures/dolls. Thank you so much for the well wishes!
10 месяцев назад
LightBearerJoe10 месяцев назад#70440087Everyone needs a break, no matter what it is. It felt very cathartic for me when I started to sell parts of my collection. It helped me find my prioritizes and made my overall collection look good by getting back so much space.
I absolutely felt the same way. Once I got over the sentimentality towards the things I owned, I was surprised how easy it was to start letting a lot of it go. Glad you were able to experience a similar relief from your collection!
galablue10 месяцев назад#70440116i know i don't know you, but i'm really proud of you too! it's amazing to be able to find a balance in your life. i found myself really spending way too much time on the internet and social media, so i've cut way back and it's been much happier. if anyone else is trying to do that, take a book/manga with you when you're out waiting at places ^_^
Thank you so much! It gets really easy to get too wrapped up in things on the internet (especially social media) so it's good to see others make an effort to log off for better mental health. That is a great suggestion to pass the time, too!
10 месяцев назад
The idea that you can appreciate a figure without needing to own it is so important and I think a lot of people could benefit from realising this. Looking at pictures is free, and with the creative abilities some people have, sometimes the photos are even better than the real thing.
10 месяцев назад
skylinedo BANNED
This is a phase. Once you've had enough experience, you'll calm down. But you need to avoid financial ruin first! Income and priorities will determine how fast you proceed in this hobby.

At first, it's a massive overwhelming CRAZE. Especially if you're in "competition" with your friends.

Then will come a point where your tastes will have significantly narrowed and your preorders dwindled. Keep your "head above the water" until then!
10 месяцев назад
I feel stuck in an endless rat race.

Always thinking of the next figure I `need` to buy and the next figure I `need` to sell.

Constantly in a state of anxiety where just by looking at my collection (supposedly my escape space into relaxation) I go: "I gotta get ride of this ASAP (even though it is still unopened and I bought it less than 2 months ago)". No to say that I am depressed, far from it, just continuously restless.

How do you step away from collecting? What about FOMO (fear of missing out) on your favorite characters & scales in that time-span? Also, how did you manage to sell 100 items on eBay? Any tips & recommendations? I am trying myself but to very middling success.

I desperately know that I need to scale down; it is an issue that I have acknowledged about 3 years ago but haven`t made any considerable headways on that front. If anything, I buy more and sell/get-rid-of about the same.

Reading your article here is a re-affirmation of what I need to do; that I need to scale down my collection to a very select few of figures (50 or 60 from a current 110, preferably less), step away, and enjoy what I have.

Would really appreciate any tips, recommendations, articles from you or anyone else regarding that.

Thanks.
10 месяцев назад
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